We are pure
Recently, in a moment of one-on-one time, one of my children shared, “I regret doing … [whatever it is I did earlier.]”
A beautiful space of connection, it was also a confession and exploration of regret. It was self-reflection out loud, yet not seeking permission or forgiveness.
If it were another child, my wounded inner cynic might see this as a backward way of telling a story of something they did that I won’t like. But none of it is backward.
It shows great capacity for self-reflection and illuminates the open quality of our relationship.
I’m reminded of what I absorbed as a child going through the standard cultural conditioning that has a great deal to do with not being worthy, trustworthy, or seen for my innate goodness.
I’m reminded to check in about how we’re interpreting our children’s actions, to see them as the expressions of the Absolute that they are, and not from the lens of our judgment-based conditioning. Yes, even the adults in our lives are this too.
They’re good kids with big hearts. They’re generous, thoughtful, creative, and kind. They want to do the right thing, and a deep part of them still remembers the subtle Truth beyond the duality of right and wrong.
They’re aware, so very aware. They absorb their environment, what their loved ones say, how their loved ones live and the gaps between these energies. They eventually make their own interpretations based on what they absorb early on (before age 6-7).
None of this is challenge-free. It’s real.
We learn, we grow, we do it together. What a blessing is that?
What have your children been reflecting back to you lately?